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The Daily Need for Deep Relationships (from Paul Tripp)

Tuesday, September 10, 2013
The Daily Need for Deep Relationships (from Paul Tripp)

As we start (or start again) meeting with our small groups this fall, we have the great privilege of enjoying and deepening relationships. Remember that small groups are about relationships, so we have the privilege of leaving the natural tendency some of us have toward isolation and instead living life in community. The following are some excerpts from Paul Tripp’s book Dangerous Calling, which is about the challenges of pastoral ministry but highlights the daily need that every member of the body of Christ has for meaningful relationships. I hope this is an encouragement to you of the importance of investing in relationships as we are doing in small groups! Sharing part of this with your small group as you start meeting might encourage them as well.

Tripp quotes Hebrews 3:12-13 and then comments on these verses. “Take care, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God. But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called ‘today,’ that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.”

“This passage,” Tripp writes, “puts before us a critical warning and an essential call that together reinforce the presence and power of remaining sin and the need for the daily ministry of the body of Christ in the life of every member of the body of Christ. … Sin is deceptive … but spiritually blind people are not only blind; they are blind to their own blindness. …

So, all of us are blind to our blind spots, but what’s the biblical solution for this? Tripp continues, “The blinding ability of sin is so powerful and persuasive that you and I literally need daily intervention. What the writer of Hebrews is crushing with this warning and call is any allegiance we might have to an isolated, individualized, “Jesus and me” Christianity. He is arguing for the essentiality of the ministry of others in the life of every believer. … None of us is wired to live this Christian life alone. None of us is safe living separated and unknown. Each of us … needs the eyes of others in order to see ourselves with clarity and accuracy. … The grace of having our private conversations interrupted by the insight-giving ministry of others is protecting us from becoming spiritually blinded to the point of hardening our hearts. … How can we realistically expect anyone in the middle of the sanctification process to live outside of one of God’s most important means of personal insight and growth and be spiritually healthy at the same time?”

I need relationships like this. You need relationships like this. Every member of your small group needs relationships like this. Let’s commit to the hard but rewarding work of diving into each other’s lives for the sake of each other’s hearts!


Erik | September 10 2013 at 2:36 pm


Thank you for sharing this insight for our groups. I will pass this onto my Small Group this week. I think this e-mail/blog series is a good idea.

Take care,
Erik (Men’s 20s and 30s Group Leader/Co-Leader)

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