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10 Encouragements for the Discouraged Leader

Thursday, March 06, 2014

I’ve talked with several small group leaders recently and realized it’s that time of year that we could all use some encouragement. Some of us are tired of pressing on week after week. Some of us are feeling inadequate as leaders. Some of us are struggling to see any point. Some of us are wondering if the people we haven’t seen in 4 weeks are ever coming back to our group. Some of us are wondering if they left because of us.

If you aren’t feeling any of those things right now, you probably have in the not too distant past or will in the not too distant future. Below is a list of 10 things (because lists always have 10, right?) to encourage you … 10 things I suspect you already know but are good to remember when we’re discouraged. Chime in with your own encouragements to share with others!

1. You’re not alone. You’re not the only leader who feels inadequate, wonders if she’s wasting her time, feels sluggish in the middle of a semester, or thinks he’s talking to no one. In fact, your pastors feel this way sometimes, too!

2. You’re right … you are inadequate. But He is adequate, and his pattern is to use inadequate people to do great things.

3. God is big enough and committed enough to his people to work through your “failures” and “successes,” your best moments as a small group leader and your worst.

4. God’s power is made perfect in your weakness (II Corinthians 12:9). Sometimes seeing your weakness will help someone in your group see God’s power.

5. Some of your best small group meetings will be when the smallest numbers are present. Remember, you’re not trying to build a following but rather to nurture relationships in a SMALL group.

6. You’re not crazy. Yes, the people in your group are broken and sometimes unreliable (so is their leader!).

7. God’s Word is living and active and will not return to him void (Hebrews 4:12, Isaiah 55:11). This means every time you open his Word He’s doing something remarkable, even when you don’t feel like you “led a good study.”

8. Small groups are about RELATIONSHIPS … over the long haul. Any long haul includes doldrums of plodding hikes as much as mountain peaks and valleys, so remember even in the mundane of life, relationships are growing.

9. It’s OK to take a week off (even for no “good reason”). The fact that you sense your group and its leader are exhausted is a “good reason.”

10. You’re not alone. God is at work. He hasn’t given up on you. He’s present when your group gathers (even if only 2 or 3 have gathered … Matthew 18:20). Easter is coming … Jesus wins … and those united to him do, too!


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