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You can only give away what you have

Thursday, October 03, 2013

You can only give away what you have. Seems pretty obvious. Seems pretty basic. It is. And there’s very little more foundational for you as a small group leader (or Christian) in thinking about how you point others in your group to Jesus. At one level it’s just another way of saying “Experience and Express Grace,” that we must experience grace ourselves first before we can share it with someone else, but in this context it goes even further.

It’s not just that we need to have experienced grace ONE TIME in the past; rather, it’s the principle that we must be feeding on Christ DAILY right now in order to be able to offer him to others. Let me explain it this way: Have you been on a diet before that really, really worked? You followed the guidelines, ate what you were told, avoided everything you were supposed to, and the pounds fell off. And stayed off (If you’ve never had this experience, just imagine!). Now suppose someone you love is having weight problems and is asking you for help. What will you do? You’ll point them to the diet you’re on, of course!

Now let’s come back to your small group. I’m going to assume that you actually care about the people in your group … you really do love them. When someone starts sharing doubts about God’s goodness, when someone tells the group they’re really struggling in their marriage, when someone confesses an ongoing sin struggle, what will you do? You will point them to whatever is “working” for you in that moment. You will offer them what has most soothed your grieving, struggling, doubting soul.

I know this because of how often I’ve seen it in my own life. When Jesus is actively the balm to my hurting heart, I can’t wait to offer him to others. When I’m in a season of self-reliance, advice on how to try harder and ways to fix the problems comes out quickly. It’s also a biblical principle, though. Recall II Corinthians 1:3-4: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” Why does God comfort us? Why does God show us grace? Why does God bless us with every spiritual blessing in Christ? According to this passage, one reason is so that we can pass along what God has given to us.

So what’s the point? One of our key relationships in small groups is our relationship WITH GOD. In my opinion, nothing (no technique, no curriculum, no plan) apart from God’s Holy Spirit himself will be more helpful for your group members’ relationships with God than for you as the leader to be actively finding Jesus sufficient for your daily needs. That’s where it starts. The same would be true for parents and kids, pastors and parishioners, friends and friends. Ask yourself these questions: What’s currently feeding my soul? Am I being honest about my own spiritual needs in my relationship with God? Am I OK with struggle because I trust God to hold onto me, or am I desperate to figure things out and have answers and plans? Am I finding hope in God’s Word or in my own ideas or solutions? You’ll only give away what you have. I pray God is making evident to you daily your deep need for his grace and his abundant sufficiency so that you point others to the same place.

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