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Ask a Pastor: When Church is Boring


Q: So, I know that God is overwhelming, but does that mean if I don’t feel overwhelmed in church that his presence isn’t really there, or that I’m just not feeling him?


A: Great question.  I’ve definitely asked myself this question before.  You have reason to be encouraged because hiding underneath your question is the desire to experience God and the desire to be near him.  Both desires are very good things.  I also realize that every situation is unique and that this response may need to be more complex but in short, my response to your question is NO. 

Why? It’s important to remember that God IS love and also that God is not a feeling, much like love in marriage is a commitment.  The “feeling” of love is not a constant feeling but rather a constant commitment to another person.  Feelings are a part of love but they are not the whole.  Sometimes true love means that we must do things that don’t “feel” so great.  One example is holding our loved ones in the hospital while they hurt.  It’s still love (commitment), but it doesn’t necessarily “feel” like an overwhelming happiness.

Many times, we tend to view our relationship with God through the lens of feeling as opposed to commitment.  Let’s be honest, church services can be downright boring sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that God isn’t real, present, or at work. How do I know this? The Bible tells me so.
1Cor. 6:19: Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own 

Matt 18:20 “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” 

When the “temples” gather together, God is there! Feelings or not. 

Pop quiz:  Can you think of a time in history when God was present and active but it didn’t “feel” that way?  Answer:  When Christ died on the cross! Everyone thought that everything had gone wrong.  They asked, “Where is God? He can’t even save his own son?” Even his disciples scattered and hid.  But God was very present.

On the cross, God the Father was at work reconciling all believers to himself through the death of God the Son, Jesus Christ, and it was proven when Jesus rose from the dead three days later.  Now, Jesus has given us God the Holy Spirit who knits our souls together to him forever as we receive the gift of salvation through faith alone.  Nothing can separate us from his love and presence, for he now lives inside us; we are his temples.  One of my favorite songs by Steven Curtis Chapman helps me rehearse this truth to my forgetful self when he sings, “We are your sons, we are your daughters, Hallelujah we are who you say we are!”

Some practical encouragements in light of God’s strength:

1.  Ask God to provide you with a new perspective when you attend church.  Try to find a place to serve within your church outside of the worship service.  See if it makes a difference.

2.  Go do something outside of your comfort zone regarding service with family or friends.  For example, spend time serving someone together or helping out your neighbor in a way that requires you to sacrifice some of your schedule.  Together, try to find a way to bless someone else and commit to pray for them the entire time that you’re serving them. See if it helps.

3.    Remember that you’re normal and not alone.  If you’re in Christ, you can call God your Father and talk to him about anything.  You can certainly talk to him about your feeling that church is becoming boring to you.  Try talking to him about it and then share your thoughts with someone that you trust as well.  What God is teaching you just might be a gift and blessing to someone else.